Example, if you decide to send a gift basket to your partner as a surprise, to avoid disappointments, don’t expect that he or she will do the same. In a relationship, I learned that the key to lesser heartaches is not expecting too much from your partner. Always keep in mind that your partner is not you. Both of you are different. So don’t expect that she or he will think and feel like the way you do.

Don’t expect a person do something for you if he/she has no idea. Give a hint and see what it can do for you and your partner!!

Most of the time, despite the knowledge of God that I have, if I’m not careful, they just stay as head knowledge. Most of the time, it’s really easy to get lost, if you see your problem as thick as a forest rather than a bush outside your window.

I know the answers, I’ve given them all.
But suddenly now, I feel so small.
Shaken down to the cavity in my soul.
I know the doctrine and theology,
But right now they don’t mean much to me.
This time there’s only one thing I’ve got to know.

When confusion creeps in, know that what He has promised you will come to pass…

Do I trust You, Lord?
Does the robin sing?
Do I trust You, Lord?
Does it rain in spring?
You can see my heart,
You can read my mind,
And You got to know
That I would rather die
Than to lose my faith
In the One I love.
Do I trust You, Lord?
Do I trust You?

Sometimes my little heart can’t understand
What’s in Your will, what’s in Your plan.
So many times I’m tempted to ask You why,
But I can never forget it for long.
Lord, what You do could not be wrong.
So I believe You, even when I must cry.
Do I trust You, Lord?
Does the river flow?
Do I trust You, Lord?
Does the north wind blow?
You can see my heart,
You can read my mind,
And You got to know
That I would rather die
Than to lose my faith
In the One I love.
Do I trust You, Lord?
Do I trust You?

I know the answers, I’ve given them all.
But suddenly now, I feel so small.
Shaken down to the cavity in my soul.
I know the doctrine and theology,
But right now they don’t mean much to me.
This time there’s only one thing I’ve got to know.

Do I trust You, Lord?
Does the robin sing?
Do I trust You, Lord?
Does it rain in spring?
You can see my heart,
You can read my mind,
And You got to know
That I would rather die
Than to lose my faith
In the One I love.
Do I trust You, Lord?
Do I trust You?

I will trust You, Lord, when I don’t know why.
I will trust You, Lord, till the day I die.
I will trust You, Lord, when I’m blind with pain!
You were God before, and You’ll never change.
I will trust You.
I will trust You.
I will trust You, Lord.
I will trust You.

Sure I have it, but then again, she needs to learn her lessons that she can’t milk me like what she’s doing. I haven’t even seen the meralco bill yet, so what payments are we talking about? How can I be sure that that really is my consumption? The last time I calculated my electric bill was short with what she’s charging me. I will pay for the water bill and the electricity bill by next month. She should know how to wait and not bother me when it’s not even my due. Last time, she (tried) to trick me into giving her more than I owe. She already asked me for a hundred pesos that’s supposed to be taken off on my next payment, but then she pretended that I didn’t understand what she said. Yes, I did let it pass me by because I know that this time is going to come. Let her wait, I’m not the only one who get’s behind payments. I have it, I just want to teach her a lesson that she cannot bully me everytime. Yes, I am upset.

“…and I gave forgiveness I’ve been denying..”-tim mcgraw, live like you were dying

For a time I’ve been hiding this pain in my heart, and my conversation with a friend last night made me realize that I should let this all out in the open once and for all, forgive the person and move on.

At the time while I was living with a friend, we’ve been branded for a lot of reasons. I thought that she was my friend being in the same faith together, however, it proved that you won’t really know a person unless their interest is on the line. Let me be clear on this that, I’m not making it her responsibility to take care of us, that’s not what I meant. She has been a really big help to us and I want to say that I have regards for her too. However, it has caused me too much tears and undue worries and constant questioning of myself and I ended up more hurt aside from my separation from my children’s father.

Stealing. She branded my kids as thieves, while I understand the situation, however, to conclude that most of the things that she’s losing around her home is because my children are stealing from her is really unfair when what she only has is what her boyfriend told her and her suspicions. For some reason, until this day, my children still feels insecure about it and the most affected is my daughter.

The last time we saw each other, she accused me of stealing her anklet. Which I never forgave her for it. How would I steal something that I don’t normally use? And at the time, despite my being hard on money, I was working as an English tutor. She may have her reasons, but until now, I still feel angry about it. I’m not a jewelry person, I may have some piece but a lot of people can attest that I don’t wear them.

Dentures. I had my dentures done by a doctor that she knew, and until today I still haven’t made the difference from it. Why? Because the dentures didn’t really fit, the first weeks that I wore it, I was in pain and endured it because I thought that I just need to “break” my gums. But according to a company dentist, it doesn’t fit me and I need to bring it back to the dentist who made it. But how could I? She already bad mouthed me to the doctor, what confidence do I have now to face her? This dragged on for years. In one of her hate mails, she even taunted me about it.

Adultery. She always insists to me that she’s not committing adultery because these men that she’s having sexual relationships with over the internet doesn’t really touches her. We always have arguments about the men she’s involved with, for some reason and I didn’t really understood her until now, but she’s too focused and consumed by what she was doing and she ends up “beating” me for it. She even used me against her husband, at the time, I thought that I was doing her a favor, but after I’ve recovered from the pains of my separation, I realized that all those things that she’s been doing to me, and the things that she’s asking me to do, weren’t right.

Despite the treatment of indignation, one should be willing to secure to cancel a debt with no reservations, and I am canceling that debt.

I will chose to forgive and cancel all the cursing words she planted in my life. It will never flourish for it would die and fall on dead ground. The years past has proven to me that my God is sufficient enough, and despite my still shortcomings, His expression of love is still available for me whenever I need it.

Thanks Hazel. My son is trained to cook, clean and after himself, organize his stuff so when he decides he wants to live alone, he can take care of himself with no nagging worries on my side. My daughter on the otherhand is just starting to learn these chores. Actually, most of the time she’s too much of a giver because she treats all her playmates which is a shock for me when I come home from my part-time work, either the cookies I bought is already gone! But I’m not worried too much about it, I guess she just needs a little more training to restrain herself from being an overboard giver.

I really pray for that Rossel, when their father and I we’re still together we worked as a team to discipline and care for them, we often talk about how we’re going to do things for the kids, we plan for them. Their father used to care for them in such a way, everything they need is met and on time. That helped me and the kids a lot in coping with these major changes.

Hi MushaMommy, yes they are sweet and helpful, and most of the time they’re patience testers, but it comes with the territory. My goal is for them to continue growing in love and discipline so by the time they have their own families, they know what to do and their marriage won’t suffer like what happened to me and their father.

A lot of people does say I have beautiful kids, thanks very much too. Well, I just hope that they pass on the care to their children and grandchildren, it will make me accomplished. I visited your blog too! Thanks for visiting me here Chubskulit!

Again, my sincerest gratitude to all of you! Have a wonderful weekend everybody!

My daughter’s love language is Physical touch and Receiving Gifts. She likes to hug and kiss me, and she always embraces me especially when we’re walking. She’s like a monkey hanging on a branch with me, hahah! Well, I can tell that she’s a certified girly, because of the latter gift. LOL!

My son’s love language is Acts of Service. He show’s his affection through the things he do, he cooks me food, do some laundry for me (of course it doesn’t take rocket science to use the washing machine and dryer!). And his other love language is Words of Affirmation, he always need constant encouragement.

I guess, like what I learned from Harold Sala‘s Train Up A Child book, our children’s lives is in our hands, and God gave us this tremendous potential to do good in their lives by bringing out the best in them. I also thank God that I have a gift of Counsel, because I am able to share the word of the Lord with my children. In time I know they will also fully accept Jesus Christ as their Lord and Saviour.